Dakini – (from Wikipedia – [] Traditionally, the term dakini has been used for outstanding female practitioners, consorts of great masters, and to denote the enlightened female principle of non-duality which transcends gender.” On an outer level, accomplished female practitioners were called dakinis, but ultimately, though she appears in female form, a dakini defies gender definitions. “To really meet the dakini, you have to go beyond duality,” Jetsun Khandro Rinpoche teaches, referring to an essential principle in Vajrayana that the absolute reality cannot be grasped intellectually.

The dakini, in her various guises, serves as each of the Three Roots. She may be a human guru, a vajra master who transmits the Vajrayana teachings to her disciples and joins them in samaya commitments. The wisdom dakini may be a yidam, a meditational deity; female deity yogas such as Vajrayogini are common in Tibetan Buddhism. Or she may be a protector; the wisdom dakinis have special power and responsibility to protect the integrity of oral transmissions[1]

A Dakini, the kind in human form, is roughly equivalent to the Muse of Western stories. She inspires the male (and often female in my case), taking him to the full expression of himself in the world.

The individual in question has obstacles to the expression of his Highest Self, and releasing these pretty much always involves revisiting the trauma that originally set the resistance in place. This is catharsis, the intense and complete experiencing of emotion that has long been contained, resisted, bottled up. In most stories of Muses, they seem willful, capricious, in a word, – trouble. They use the full range of manipulative tools and shock tactics that wives do. Wicked. The difference is this: A girlfriend, or wife, in the normal pattern (archetype) of things is motivated by her ego-view, which sometimes includes the awareness that “her man” living his excellence can benefit her. More often though, his flowering will be taken by her as a threat. A Dakini has one purpose – man’s spiritual advancement, from wherever he is to wherever he can go with her support. She is operating consciously with Love, and all the leverage that affords, to pry apart your defences, smash your ego and put Truth as close in front of you as possible, that you might wake up to your purpose, your flowering.

She’s an emissary of the Divine, to tempt you to your Divinity, to experiencing the real fruits of existence.

Daka – (from Wikipedia [ insert ] ) A male counsellor/therapist/healer/guide who has the capacity to remain objectively present andgrounded while purposefully and therapeutically employing erotic energy to evaluate, counsel and address a client’s deeply personal issues regarding sexuality, intimacy and relationships, fostering healing and integration thereof.

The work of a Daka, a male Tantra Practitioner is usually with a Dakini who is awakening to her path. He provides a base of unconditional love and devotion (to her truth, not her mind) which encourages the woman to her flowering. He shows her, through her direct experience, that intimacy, love and bliss are not rare, scarce, unattainable or dependant on someone else. They are there within her, waiting to be claimed – her birthright.

Dakinis and Dakas are those who know, at their deepest level, that this is their calling, their vocation. The commitment required is not “great” or “huge”, it’s total. Every aspect of being is involved. To work effectively with Tantra, an impeccable mind, a healthy body, an open heart and a significant degree of spiritual awareness are required.

So, for Dakinis, diet, exercise, meditation and some form of energy work are important. Dakinis work on themselves, their bodies and minds using Yoga, Tai-Chi, and practicing various arts along with lots of silent sitting meditation.

The Buddha’s injunction to practice “right livelihood” is also important. Being involved in a business that profits from, or causes, damage to the earth is not compatible with tantric practice. Neither is being involved with any enterprise that derogates the Goddess, or any aspect of the Divine Feminine. These are not “rules”, they are simply facts. Keeping the heart open and loving is essential to working with sacred sexuality. The heart can’t be open when you’re doing that which offends it.


What is Sacred Intimacy?

An excerpt from an article written by Don Shewey….

SACRED INTIMATE – An integrative approach to sexual healing

What does a sacred intimate do? I like to say that sacred intimates combine the roles of priest/preistess, sexual healer and psychotherapist. In other words, they approach sexuality with the understanding that it’s related to soul work and to spirituality. They use mindfulness and integrity to help people identify, embrace, and practice desire as holy, sexual embodiment as an expression of the soul. They hold the body as sacred and view erotic energy as a crucial component of human life and spiritual health. Their primary intention is that of healing — and by healing I mean not just addressing the wounds to the spirit and the flesh caused by sexual abuse, addiction, or disease but also acknowledging that the fun and the pleasure, the vitality and the divine mystery of sex have nourishing properties in and of themselves. That’s a message that easily gets lost in a culture that is as ambivalent or sex-negative as ours.

For me, sacred intimate work is a constant dance between the sex-worker side of me, concentrating on healing through pleasure, and the psychotherapist, processing emotional issues. And all this takes place within the context of my own grounded spiritual practice, a consecrated ritual space, and my own sense of purpose, to wake people up to the joy of life in a body. I want to live in a world that honors and supports sexual freedom, erotic abundance, and healing through pleasure.


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